Yesterday Angelo turned 12 weeks old! As I've mentioned before he's a fussy baby. After doing much research online I found that he fits the typical characteristics of a high needs baby. What is that? Well it's a child that needs alot of attention, likes to be held almost constantly, fed frequently, doesn't need much sleep and oh yeah wants to be stimulated constantly.
If you don't follow Angelo's rules, cries break out. They aren't just average cries, they are all out tantrums with legs and arms kicking, back arching, oh and he's scratched himself till he's bled as well. I mean, he's super wild!
Although it sometimes gets old having to pay almost constant attention to him I have found ways around it. Yes, I've even learned to use the restroom while he's in the front to back rider!
Now, as he gets older, questions of spoiling and routines have popped out of the mouths of many. This is fine, as I question myself constantly and the questions help me come up with solutions.
However I find myself in a bit of a dilemma. Our biggest issue now is over naps...which are rare. I know not napping only adds to his crabby mood and he's much better when he does take them. But how do you "make" a baby take a nap?
At this time I've decided that all I can do is make his environment condusive to napping. Giving him the opportunity to nap the same way he goes to bed each night. (Which by the way he is a good night sleeper.) But so far during nap time he stays in his crib for approximatly ten minutes, and then begins to howl!
How long do I let him howl for? I hate leaving him cry. I feel it's his way, and only way, of communicating with me. One night Mike and I let him cry for over an hour and he just kept getting more worked up...not like some children who give up or self soothe.
I guess I'd just rather be his mom and soothe him but I worry that he could end up spoiled.
I read books about other cultures where the babies rarely cry. The women wear the babies all day long, nurse them when they need and sleep by them at night. In fact some cultures don't even set their babies on the ground till they are six months old. I worry that our Western Culture makes us quick to "occupy" our childrens time with swings and games so that we can have our own agenda, putting them on "schedules" so it's easy for us.
Thoughts anyone? I'm open minded! : )